Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Wait. What?

Millennial women are 'worried,' 'ashamed' of out-earning boyfriends and husbands.

I though women were outraged they didn't earn as much as men. Said in the most sarcastic way. So you'd think they would be over the moon earning even more than men.

When I read stories like this I feel like the world still works the way I think it does. You can social engineer things to death, but it's going to take long time to wipe out that evolutionary pressure. In the end, things basically work the way they always have.

"It's no longer rare for women in relationships to out-earn their husbands or boyfriends — in 2015, for example, 38 percent of American wives made more money than their husbands — but many women remain ambivalent about being breadwinners, reports Ashley C. Ford for Refinery29.

Ford, who is herself unbothered about making 70 percent more than her own male partner, tries to understand why so many of the millennials she speaks to report feeling concerned, or even ashamed, about the repercussions of their success.

The feedback they receive from the culture is clear: Men should be earning more so that they can provide for their families, and if they don't, it's symptomatic of a problem. These messages produce an "almost unavoidable emotional and psychological consequence," Ford writes. Women feel guilty. Men feel emasculated."

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm calling shenanigans on this theory. The data used to support this idea, is that as soon as a woman makes more than $5k per year from her spouse, the guy bolts. Look at the way the spousal support laws work. Marital dissatisfaction isnt caused by them making more. The pay increase gives unhappy men an out without being on the hook for a lot of money. I bet if you looked at how long divorces happen after a large pay increase by either sex, that it will bump the timeline compared to status quo. DF

she said: said...

Oh Baby..... you don't know how girls work.

Judging by the whole 1960/70/80's, it didn't even take 5 grand to make a guy bolt. As soon as women rights became a thing guys "bolted" en mass. Usually at the penalty of child support. (BTW - are you a baby daddy I didn't know about? It's just an interesting example to chose)

People are geared towards status. Not my rules - it's the rules of England. I've always been fascinated that guys I've encountered never cared what a woman made, but ALL girls care about that. A guy will take a girl with no job in a heartbeat. A girl will not.

I'm not saying it's the "cause" of marital dissatisfaction, but a factor. At the very base - people are still monkeys. And we have the magic V, so the rules of nature is you still have to impress us.